A friend and I were just talking about how misleading blogs can be sometimes. I don’t want mine to be one of those blogs. So, in the spirit of full disclosure and a reality check, I present to you, in no particular order, the things you should know about this blog.
- The topics I write about are things I get excited about. The projects I write about are interests of mine. They are not the entirety of who I am.
- I have a lot of flop ideas and boring parts of my life that I don’t write about. Maybe I should do that more, because the dull stuff is the stuff of life.
- I make a lot of mistakes. Often big ones. I hope that my blog conveys that.
- I usually either write at naptime or in the early mornings, then pre-schedule my posts.
- I don’t like how much time the social media aspect of blogging consumes. I’m trying to figure out how to schedule my posts out on there and then have a designated time for response and interaction.
- I don’t cook all the recipes I write on a regular basis. So I wrote a sourdough recipe– great! I love sourdough! But sometimes I go a month without making it. Please don’t be under the assumption that I am a sourdough baking, yogurt making, fermenting machine every single day.
- I never do it all.
- I get excited about good-for-you real food that tastes good too. I write about that a lot. But I don’t mind meeting my family at McDonald’s for a play place date on occasion. I know it’s bad for you. But it’s not our usual, and I don’t think it will kill us every once in a while.
- I like chocolate. Is that related to blogging?
- I started a blog, not because I think I have something super-awesome and new to offer to you, but because I like to write and I miss it when I’m not doing it.
- Sometimes I think that blogs are a big distraction and a waste of time. When they become that, we should read fewer of them.
- Sometimes I think my blogging-writing voice is kind of obnoxious.
- I wish that I wrote about more intelligent things more often. But so far, I haven’t met that goal.
- What works for my family may not work for you. Be thoughtful about what is good, and then do what you think is best.
- Notice all the things I don’t write about: garden care, housekeeping, decor, animal health, and magical laundry that folds itself in your sleep. That’s because these are not my areas of expertise. There’s a lot I don’t know.
- Sometimes the garden and canning and animal projects on the blog turn out well. Sometimes they don’t. That’s part of learning, growing, and the natural ebb and flow of things.
- I am not the picture of health, even though I like learning about and writing about health topics.
- I think that we should be good stewards of our bodies and the earth, but I also think that the pursuit of doing so can become an idol- one that can possibly be harmful to our thinking and our relationships. My hope is that this blog won’t lead anyone down the road of homesteading/natural living worship.
- I make a (very) wee bit of money on my blog. I hope you don’t mind my monetizing it, because that helps me to stay home with my kids. I never endorse a product I don’t like, because that would be dishonest and silly.
- Even though this blog is kind of in the “homesteading” niche, I don’t like the label. It makes me squirmy. But I’m still passionate about doing it.
- I’m fairly clueless in a lot of ways.
- Blogging is a welcome excuse to not clean my house or weed the flower beds.
- I like writing. But I’d rather be hanging out with these guys and watching their antics. So you’ll excuse me. 😉
Saturday night, we were a bit behind on our evening routine. The goat got milked late, the dinner was sitting out on the counter, and there were toys everywhere. I got the food put away while Tim worked on the first coat of paint on our porch, then I joined him to tackle the laundry while we sat out in the cool summer air. He painted, I folded, we talked.
10:23 pm. We came inside. I looked at the pile of dishes and made an offhand comment: “I had better just put 10 minutes in on these dishes. It will make my life better tomorrow.”
He replied, “You should read fewer blogs and more books. Too many ideas to make your life better- not enough deep thinking.”
He knows I’ve been obsessed with trying to “organize my life” better before our third baby comes. I’ve pulled out all the stops: I did the Make Over Your Mornings course from Crystal Paine, a 30-day minimalist challenge with a couple of friends, and a half-hearted attempt at this Four Weeks to a More Organized Home checklist. I’ve been trying to keep up on evening and morning routines and turn myself into a more disciplined person.
Those “ideas to make my life better” aren’t inherently wrong. They can be extremely productive and beneficial to your home. But perhaps even all those good things can take the place of other, more meaningful things? Deeper, more fulfilling ideas, more important projects- rather than the next mom blog with a brilliantly “pinnable” image of some new life hack you should try?
Blogs came up again today. Our car ride home was filled with how detrimental it is to be comparing yourself to other people. How getting caught up in what you’re not doing can seriously take away from the life in front of you that you could be living.
“That’s the problem with the type of blog that’s always talking about what the author is doing,” Tim said. “Because someone will always read it and wish that they could be doing that instead of just being content with their own life.”
Us included, of course. Am I contributing to a widespread internet epidemic?
Sigh. Why do I write about what I’m doing in my day to day life? Is it to make you look at our family and make you jealous over all the cool things we’ve got going on? Is it because I like talking about myself too much?
I hope, at best, I’m writing about all this stuff because I’m excited about it. I hope I’m writing it because it might be helpful to someone else. I hope I’m writing in honesty, sharing our discoveries, triumphs, and failures along our journey.
It probably doesn’t make much sense for someone who is hoping to turn her blog into a part-time income to tell you to read fewer blogs.
If my blog- or anyone else’s- is an encouragement, then read on. If an idea is inspiring, then give it a go. If you can relate to my struggles, or it makes you smile, or you just enjoy reading it, then please do come back.
But if my blog- or anyone else’s- is making you miss out on YOUR real life, then stop reading now, please. If it’s making you discouraged because you’re not where you would like to be yet, then close the computer or smart phone or whatever and go do something good. If it’s giving you the idea that we have a perfectly beautiful life without any problems, then please be assured that we are real humans with ugly sides. We are people who struggle much.
For goodness’s sake, I think my husband is right… I know I need to read more good books instead of one blogging idea after another. I could stand to do something real instead of surfing my phone. I’d be a little more content with my own life, a little more focused on what I need to do if I wasn’t always looking for the next clever idea from someone I’ve never met before.
I’m going to go work on putting furniture on the porch with my husband now. What will you go do?
Whatever it is, when you want to come back, I’ll likely still be here, because I still enjoy writing. And we still enjoy learning from others. And blogs and projects and ideas can still be helpful.
But let’s all remember- we mustn’t get so caught up in someone else’s online life that it takes away from our own.
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